The purpose of a wall is:
2. when the wall falls or has cracks, it can leave one in fear, uncertain, doubting their safety, exposed to the forces of nature
3. the wall could fall and crumble
As parents we are to provide protection for our children. We need to seek God on how to handle all situations. We need to do what is best for our child, not what is best for us at the moment. When we seek God and do what is best for our child, sometimes we have to reaarange our plans. Discipline and training our children takes time...lots of time!
But, when we "lack self-control," we can hurt our children and begin to "break down their walls." They may begin to doubt who they are in Christ, our love for them, etc. They may begin to have fear and not feel safe. Their foundation is oftentimes questioned. At this point in their life, the younger they are, the more they rely on us for that solid foundation. They cannot do it on their own. They are in training. When we "say" things in anger, we tear down our children. We allow the enemy entrance to come in and mess with their minds. Our children value highly what we think and when we say things in frustration or anger we really hurt them. AND the enemy can magnify this because he wants to tear apart and divide. BUT our God is greater, He is stonger, He is higher than any other! When we rely on Him to work through us, we can do nothing but WIN!
- Are my words leading my children to hurt and pain OR to the Father and full of God-confidence?
- Am I tearing down or building up my children with my words, my actions, my attitudes?
- Are my children doing things I dislike, such as showing anger, attitudes, etc? Have I looked at myself to see if I am doing that before I point the finger?
- Am I relying on the Father for self-control or trying within myself to have self-control?